Who I Am

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neil-gaiman
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2023 does not have to end being the year of overpriced tuberculosis tests. DanaherCorp can make it the time for five dollar tests for all.

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For the last week, our community has been pressuring the large corporation Danaher to lower prices for TB tests. Danaher owns Cepheid, the company that makes GeneXpert Machines, which are absolutely wondrous: In an hour, they can tell you not just if you have tuberculosis, but also which treatment plan is most likely to cure you quickly. It's life-saving technology.

Danaher mostly owns lab companies and the like, but strangely, they also own Pantone--the color-matching company? And so one way we've been trying to make the case to Danaher that it's in their best interest to lower prices is through a campaign to name new Pantone colors of the year related to their parent company's overcharging for TB tests.

And now that meme is mixing with OFMD memes, which is a wonder to behold.

vaspider
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If homophobes weren't so awful to LGBT people, then maybe we'd be happier.

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minecraftpoet

Also. There are happy queer people. Old and young. Living all different types of lives, many of they very regular and fulfilled. The fact that you think there isn’t betrays that you have not spoken to very many queer people.

vaspider

Those two things are also not in conflict.

I live a very, very happy life on the overall. I have an amazing kid who's about to start college, I have two partners who I adore and by whom I am adored. I run a business which allows me to employ my brother and 2 other queer folx and which is doing better year over year, which allows me to do my art for a living. I have 4 dogs who I love. I live in a lovely house in a neighborhood I like which is reasonably accessible. I have the health care I need. I eat food which I like, and have hobbies I enjoy which I undertake with my partners. I write for roleplaying games, which I really enjoy. My online community is pretty fucking rad, and I have reached out to it for support and reached out to support it many times. I dress the way I like to dress, and I am deeply rooted in my Jewish community, which I love and which loves me.

And I'm fucking pissed off at the injustices of the world and the way my generation and the one before it was forced to grow up. I'm pissed off that these fuckers are trying to bring that all back for my kids and the kids of my kids.

Those two things are not in conflict at all. You can live a happy, fulfilled life and also be righteously fucking pissed about your own mistreatment and the mistreatment of others, and the idea that those two things are in conflict at all is a form of tone policing on the part of the person who Qualia is QTing. The implication that if we are angry at all that we cannot also be deeply fulfilled in our lives is a sort of emotional negging. If you're angry, you have failed to be fulfilled and happy. If you're angry, you are just proof that your "lifestyle" is deviant, because you're not happy or joyful or fulfilled.

And that? That's just bullshit. It's telling someone who was deeply abused that they can't be angry about it, because if they're angry about how they were treated, that's proof that they're the ones who failed.

I felt this sort of deep and resonating peace run through me when I watched Shiny Happy People -- the documentary about the Duggars -- because the family in which I was raised was not part of the Quiverfull movement, but we were one step to the left from there. My parents had Focus on the Family publications in the house, including parenting books by Dobson. A lot of the ideas and ideals about the Proper Kind of Life I grew up with had a lot of overlap with the way the Duggars lived, just turned down like... one notch. Sometimes.

And watching that show made me realize that I hadn't failed to live up to the kind of life that my parents wanted me to live, but that living that kind of life is impossible, and it's set up to be impossible. The standards of purity of thought and purity of action and "righteous behavior" were not ever set up for me to be able to adhere to, or for anyone to be able to adhere to. I was set up to fail from the beginning, because that failure was how the religious structure in which I was raised could control me, and did control me. I was supposed to allow them to slap me, both metaphorically and literally, and smile about it. I was supposed to allow them to hit me, both metaphorically and literally, and profess to being deeply, joyously content with the treatment.

If I could not be struck and smile about it, if I could not be told that I am broken and wrong and disgusting and profess joy, then the problem wasn't with the people who were hurting me, the problem was with me, and was just a sort of proof that the way I wanted to live my life must be wrong.

This sort of commentary is just a lighter form of that kind of abusive rhetoric. Don't fall for it.

I'm very happy with my life, and the ways in which I am not happy with my life do not track back to anything that I did or did not do, but to the parts of my past where I or my community were mistreated.

feral-and-or-horny
transwolvie

Too many people are forgetting these things too quickly:

-SESTA/FOSTA passed. Despite the many, many warnings of sex workers.

-A bunch of apps started their censorship policies because Apple directly threatened their revenue if they didn't promise to cut down on the amount of porn on their sites

-MasterCard and VISA tried to outright stop processing OnlyFans work SPECIFICALLY because of the association with sex work, and no other feasible financial reason.

There is not a sudden regressive movement among individual people. Free The Nipple didn't fade into obscurity because people didn't care. It was stopped. By policies. By laws. By arrests. By censorship. These things have been purposefully put in place by companies and politicians. They saw the work we were trying to do wrt bodily autonomy, sexual liberation, and sexual freedom, and they forcibly put a stop to it.

feral-and-or-horny
angel-in-your-basement

Here’s the thing that some people don’t seem to understand about sex & kink. You have to respect boundaries before you get to push them. You have to show people they’re safe before you get to make them feel scared. You have to respect people before you get to degrade them. You have to be normal with people before you get to be dirty with them. You can’t be skipping steps. Treating them like a person always comes before treating them like a toy.

vaspider
gerardpilled

I don’t have children so take this with a grain of salt but I hate when you can tell people like the concept of their children more than their well-being. Parents like the concept of an all-beige nursery that’s photogenic more than they care about the development of their kid’s brain. They like the concept of a cutely dressed kid in designer clothes more than they care about their comfort and personal desires. They like the concept of a child who never eats poorly more than they care about the happiness that can come from a child eating some candy now and then. People need to stop treating their kids like little dolls

vaspider

Uh, I have kids, and so I've spent a lot of time around kids and around other parents, and you are very much on to something.

Whether they have kids because they felt like they needed to or because they wanted an heir or whatever, they don't actually want to hang out with developing humans. They want the idea of kids. They want the Christmas card and the pictures on the desk and the Instagram picture.

They don't want the baby screaming for 5 hours straight because it's too cold out to walk to the store and get more baby ibuprofen for the ear infection on Friday night and your partner has the car. They don't get that the baby is crying because she's literally never hurt worse than this in her tiny life, and they don't get that their toddler has never been sadder than when her favorite toy broke, and that she really didn't know she would break it if she did the thing she just did. That the 4-year-old is crying because the world is too big and too overwhelming and she has no control over where she goes or what she does most of the time, and that the 14-year-old isn't telling them anything about her life because they told her ten years ago to shut up or they'd give her something worth crying about, so she knows they don't value her real feelings, only the ones she's supposed to have.

And they don't want to get any of it. And it fucking sucks that people who don't actually WANT kids feel like they have to have them, or have them to have something smaller than themselves to bully, or have kids as a status symbol. It all just blows, and mostly because:

Kids are people, and most people are actually pretty fucking rad, if given the opportunity to be.

There are a lot of good parents out there, and then there are the parents who had kids because they thought they had to, or wanted someone to boss around, or whatever. And like... even if you thought you wanted kids, you can quickly find out that it actually blows to be a parent in a nuclear family setup, and get really burned out on being a parent. Kids are much better raised by an extended family. That's how we're wired. And like... we broke it. We broke it, and it breaks parents and it hurts kids.

gallusrostromegalus
reversedumbrella

i've just had a terrible idea

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i present to you the mona lisa:

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reversedumbrella

ok so, for the last few hours i've been making this code that organizes the colors in drawings:

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(mostly @metukika's bc her works look really dope and i don't have many like that ;_;)

and these things feel like something that would be sold as a "deconstruction of classical paintings" like the "the kiss" by Klimt, "starry night" by Van Gogh or "Girl with a pearl earing" by vermeer

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i can imagine going to an art gallery and finding stuff like this, made by someone who thinks they are so so smart

gallusrostromegalus

Ok but this is actually phenomenally cool OP, and a terrific tool for explaining some of the weirder aspects of color theory, especially how to translate color from traditional media to digital.

I'm working on the teaching plan for a digital painting class I'm going to pitch to my illustration school, and I was wondering if you had something I could use to show this concept to the class? (In exchange for full credit and money of course)